Thursday, June 18, 2009

what it means to be a husband

So, lately I have been thinking about how I can be a better husband to my wife Megan, and what exactly it means to be a good husband. I haven't quite figured it out. The bible tells us to love our wives as Christ loves the Church. How on earth am I supposed to do that when I am super pissed off and mad at my wife? I am still trying to figure this all out. I know that in spite of my anger I need to love my wife as Christ loves the Church. I have been thinking even more about the homily that was given by Adam Neder (Professor of Theology at Whitworth University) at my wedding. Adam talked about how Jesus doesn't compromise. He doesn't settle for half ass, it's all or nothing. Adam related this to marriage. It's not about compromising it's about sacrificing for each other, laying down your pride and maybe even your life for your spouse. This is really hard to do. It's hard to sacrifice yourself for the sake of someone else, even if you love them dearly. We are selfish creatures, no offense, but especially men. We are prideful beings and we don't lay down our pride very well. We are worried more about sports, beer, sex, and food, than the well being of the ones we love. I know that is stereotypical and a bit of an exaggeration, but it is true to an extent. I don't know if I will ever figure this out (I am pretty sure I won't)! Don't get me wrong I love beer, sports, food, and sex, but my wife is more important on a whole different level. I am just trying to find out how to show her that she is that important, and love her so that she know that she is that important. I think my whole life and marriage will consist of me trying to figure out how to sacrifice for my wife and to love my wife as Christ loves the Church. I hope that any married males reading this would strive for the same things.

Andrew Esqueda